You generally have your act together and have some good insight, maybe from previous therapy, maybe just because.  You’ve got some areas you’d like to work on anyway, or maybe life’s thrown a few stumbling blocks in the road lately, and you could use some help sorting through stuff and dealing with life stressors.  You’d like to feel just generally more settled and sure of your path forward.

Your past experiences are impacting your relationships with the people you care about.  You want to "be like I used to be” and to get out of the loop of pain and bad memories, so you can stop being haunted by the past; and decrease the pain that prevents you from being the person you want to be in your relationships, job, and personal life.

There’s been an infidelity in your relationship, or perhaps some other kind of betrayal.  You are questioning whether or not the relationship you thought you had ever existed. You want to understand what happened and feel secure in your relationship again.

Maybe you’re sorting through a developing aspect of your identity or trying to chart a course through your relationship/s.  Maybe you’re dealing with stigma and feeling stressed about having to hide part of your life.  Or maybe you have some stuff to work on that has nothing to do with the kink or poly aspect of your life. Either way, you just want to go to therapy without having to educate your therapist or worry about being judged and pathologized.

Your relationship used to be great, but more recently things haven’t been going as well. You’re worried things will get worse if you don’t get help. You’d like the relationship to get back to how it was at its best and feel connected with your partner again.

You know you need therapy, and you really don’t want to do it.  You don’t know what to say when people ask how you’re feeling, just that you feel different than before, and not a good kind of different.  You don’t have the energy to do much.  Or perhaps your fuse is shorter than it used to be.  You'd like to understand what’s going on and feel better without having to journal or “get in touch with your inner child”.